A lot of marriage-related posts – for that I apologize. Deal.
This is the text of our vows. I wrote them. With some help from Bill Goldman, Bill Shakespeare and Becky.
Marriage. Marriage is what brings us together today. Love, true love, that dream within a dream is ours to witness.
We gather here to celebrate the wedding of James Foreman and Rebecca Pierce. A moment in which two lives join together, so the parts may grow stronger together. It lasts only briefly, a simple ceremony where words are repeated and promises are made. They call them vows, but promises is all they are, words that disappear the moment they are spoken. But these promises are not taken lightly. Rebecca and James are together now, and the oaths they make today will be remembered, just as all happy moments are remembered, with fondness and love, so that this togetherness will last. Even when memories fade, the photographs yellow, and the flowers wilt, this union that we, all of us witness, will be permanent and unyielding, for that which is made in love cannot be unmade.
But even though words are fleeting, there are few who used them to describe the kind of love we celebrate today better than William Shakespeare, in his Sonnet 116:
Let me not to the marriage of true minds
admit impediments. Love is not love
which alters when it alteration finds,
or bends with the remover to remove:
Oh, no! It is an ever-fixed mark.
That looks on tempests and is never shaken;
it is the star to every wandering bark,
whose worth’s unknown, although his height be taken.
Love’s not Time’s fool, though rosy lips and cheeks
within his bending sickle’s compass come;
love alters not with his brief hours and weeks,
but bears it out even to the edge of doom.
If this be error and upon me proved,
I never writ, nor no man ever loved.
Rebecca Pierce, do you take James to be your equal, your partner and your companion, through fire, through smoke, through thorns, through disaster and delight, to accept his flaws, to forgive his faults, to have, to hold, to comfort, to care, to inspire, to indulge, to counsel, to calm, every day and every moment, for as long as you shall live?
[I do. ]
To symbolize your love, place your ring upon her finger.
James Foreman, do you take Rebecca to be your equal, your partner and your companion, through fire, through smoke, through thorns, through disaster and delight, to accept his flaws, to forgive his faults, to have, to hold, to comfort, to care, to inspire, to indulge, to counsel, to calm, every day and every moment, for as long as you shall live?
[I do.]
To symbolize your love, place your ring upon her finger.
By the power vested in me, I join you together as one in a unity of like minds, bound to the same fate, no matter the troubles or the obstacles, now greater than the sum of its parts. I pronounce you man and wife.
You may kiss the bride.